Why Self-Care Isn’t Selfish for Mums (It’s Survival).

Self-Care
Written By Levi Montgomery

Let’s be real – being a mum is beautiful, chaotic, exhausting, and hilarious all at once. Whether you’re expecting your first baby, rocking the newborn haze, or juggling a school drop-off with a toddler on your hip and Weet-Bix in your hair – you need self-care. Not the bubble bath, influencer-style version (unless that works for you) – we’re talking about real, sustainable self-care for mums that keeps you sane, present, and you.

Why Self-Care Matters at Every Stage of Motherhood

1. For Soon-to-Be Mums:
Pregnancy is exciting but also… a lot. Your body is changing, your emotions are doing gymnastics, and everyone has an opinion. Carving out time to rest, move your body gently, or simply lie down with your feet up isn’t lazy – it’s necessary. Prenatal self-care (think: naps, nutritious food, pelvic floor exercises, and breathing space from people who stress you out) is the foundation for what’s coming.

2. For New Mums:
You’re healing, learning, leaking, loving, and not sleeping. It’s no wonder new mums feel overwhelmed. Taking 10 minutes to shower, eat a hot meal, or even stare at the wall in silence is an act of rebellion in the best way. You’re allowed to ask for help. You deserve support. Self-care for new mums isn’t optional – it’s how we refill a cup that gets poured out constantly.

3. For All Mums, Always:
Toddlers, teenagers, or everything in between – motherhood doesn’t stop, and neither should your self-care. Whether it’s booking that dentist appointment, having a solo grocery run with your favourite playlist, or saying “no” to things that drain you – it all counts. Because when mums take care of themselves, the whole family feels the ripple effect.

What Real Self-Care for Mums Looks Like

  • Saying “no” without guilt

  • Eating something that didn’t come off a child’s plate

  • Walking around the block to clear your head

  • Crying when you need to – and not apologising for it

  • Asking for help (yes, even from your mother-in-law)

  • Doing something that makes you feel like you again

Self-care isn’t about escaping your role as a mum – it’s about showing up for it without losing yourself in the process. You matter too. And yes, it’s okay to put your needs on the list – somewhere above “find missing sock”.



Now take the 30-day self-care challenge and let us know how you do over in the community!

Levi Montgomery